MyYearofWishfulThinking

Gratuitous photo of Francis for the day—chewing on a bone...

Tue, 06 Mar 2012 22:15:15 -0500

Gratuitous photo of Francis for the day—chewing on a bone not my shoes. Such a good dog!

I finally did something I wanted to do for a long...

Tue, 06 Mar 2012 22:12:38 -0500

I finally did something I wanted to do for a long time—fraxel for my acne scars! Here is me day two. I hope this was worth it :) Will write about the experience more later.

Francis’ first ferry ride! The guys on the boat fell in...

Mon, 05 Mar 2012 18:13:43 -0500

Francis’ first ferry ride! The guys on the boat fell in love with him. How could you not :)

Francis’ first taxi ride! Very well behaved—no...

Mon, 05 Mar 2012 18:12:22 -0500

Francis’ first taxi ride! Very well behaved—no barking. The cab driver didn’t like him because according to him Francis is a lazy dog.

March 5 Bringing up Francis

Mon, 05 Mar 2012 18:10:16 -0500

Sorry for the silence, it was Francis’ first week with me and the majority of my time was taken up with him! What a fun week it has been! A few WTF moments: Francis loves to chase squirrels, pigeons, small dogs, and cats! So, this makes walking him in the city quiet difficult since these creatures are not exactly sparse around Washington Sq Park were I live. Obedience training is definitely on the list. Another discovery I made is I think Francis was raised to be a hunting dog. We were at my parents house this weekend. And this minute the door was opened he bolted out after a herd of deer with his paw upright!

So there is the Francis update.

Now for me: I have an interview scheduled at a school in the Boston area for next Monday! It would be my dream job so I am hoping for the best. I have slacked off on applying for other jobs so I need to get back on the horse with that!

Photoshop magic of Francis and his best bitch please look at a...

Wed, 29 Feb 2012 21:03:11 -0500

Photoshop magic of Francis and his best bitch please look at a cat!

Francis playing dead! :)

Wed, 29 Feb 2012 20:41:59 -0500

Francis playing dead! :)

Francis day 2

Wed, 29 Feb 2012 20:41:18 -0500

So, I brought home Francis yesterday and he has been a doll except for the chasing birds thing he has. I couldn’t be happier. I finally have something in my life that I need to take care of. Something my husband would not let me do. So, goal one of my one year plan had been accomplished! Here is what we have left:

Days since I have talked to my husband : 30 days
Number jobs I have applied for: Zero. I did spend time revising my cover letter
Job interviews scheduled: Zero
Days until I want to get pregnant: 150 days.

If You Walk Away, I'll Walk Away

Sat, 25 Feb 2012 17:38:00 -0500

My husband of 5 years, a professor a private university in NYC, left in the midst of a job search that I was hoping would start us on a new life and on the road
to having family. He left without a forwarding address but a blocked phone. Nothing has been legally pursued by him but I know this is the end and so I will be instituting the proceedings for divorce. The tumblr will examine how a 38 year old women, who loves to drink and smoke, loses a husband, gets a life, a dog, and a baby and finally makes her own way. This divorce is something I do not want but I will now live my life on my own terms.

I’m giving myself a year starting from today to make these changes. Why a year? I’ve spent the last 5 years of my life in limbo. My ex, knew from the beginning that he would not get tenure so I never felt that I could put down roots, make plans for future. Why today? Today, I finally asserted what I needed and officially adopted a dog, something my husband never wanted. I pick up Francis, a 90 pound black lab on Monday. Next on the agenda of my life post-husband will be buying baby-batter and taking the turkey baster into my own hands on July 21, 2012, the day after my 39th birthday.

So, now that we have covered the baby and the dog next comes the life. Frankly, I need to find a new job that can support me, a baby, and a 90 pound black lab. While I hate to leave NYC and the Village in particular, I need to find another city that is more livable where as a single parent I can be a bread winner. The tumblr will end on February 25, 2013 with hopefully a happy ending which is something I
believe in despite what has happened. If not, I believe it this will be a delightful exercise in the power of self-determination, hope, and love.

Enjoy!