My husband of 5 years, a professor a private university in NYC, left in the midst of a job search that I was hoping would start us on a new life and on the road
to having family. He left without a forwarding address but a blocked phone. Nothing has been legally pursued by him but I know this is the end and so I will be instituting the proceedings for divorce. The tumblr will examine how a 38 year old women, who loves to drink and smoke, loses a husband, gets a life, a dog, and a baby and finally makes her own way. This divorce is something I do not want but I will now live my life on my own terms.
I’m giving myself a year starting from today to make these changes. Why a year? I’ve spent the last 5 years of my life in limbo. My ex, knew from the beginning that he would not get tenure so I never felt that I could put down roots, make plans for future. Why today? Today, I finally asserted what I needed and officially adopted a dog, something my husband never wanted. I pick up Francis, a 90 pound black lab on Monday. Next on the agenda of my life post-husband will be buying baby-batter and taking the turkey baster into my own hands on July 21, 2012, the day after my 39th birthday.
So, now that we have covered the baby and the dog next comes the life. Frankly, I need to find a new job that can support me, a baby, and a 90 pound black lab. While I hate to leave NYC and the Village in particular, I need to find another city that is more livable where as a single parent I can be a bread winner. The tumblr will end on February 25, 2013 with hopefully a happy ending which is something I
believe in despite what has happened. If not, I believe it this will be a delightful exercise in the power of self-determination, hope, and love.